I was with my first boyfriend for 5 years and I can say that he was what I considered my best friend. First Name E-Mail Address. On a fresh sheet of paper, your old patterns aside, list all of the qualities you would like in a future partner. Margaret, that is so incredibly sweet and generous of you to say. Repeat the process of step three, this time checking off any common negative attributes. We learn something new with every one, which is the whole point of life anyway; to live and love, make mistakes, learn, and go forward. Only after you forgive yourself can you take steps forward to weave a new pattern.
How did we allow this to happen, again?
Unlock Your Relationship Patterns
The pattern is what? If you are serious about finding a good, compatible relationship, I strongly recommend a Clarity Session. Something you are putting into the relationship equation is creating your patterns. Focus less on what the person looks like or what they do for a living. You should definitely give yourself credit for seeing the signs and trusting your instincts not to commit.